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Shortly after we broke up (for her cheating on me, and then going psycho when I confronted her), she filed for a totally bogus restraining order.

Apparently I was sending her threatening e-mails. She has a good printer, but instead hand-wrote the e-mails she turned in to the court for the restraining order. Still, they granted it.

Fast forward 5 months....

I have moved to Grand Haven to get away from her, and to start a new career. I have not contacted her, or even thought of contacting her in that time. About a month ago, I started getting phone calls from her and her friends; I ignored every single one of them, yet have kept records, and screenshots of the phone. I have changed my number THREE times to try and get them out of my life, and each time, somehow they have found my new number. Lately, my grandmother, and mother have been getting calls at all hours of the day from them, including one at 11pm from my ex threatening my grandmother, and also saying that I am going down.

My AIM screenames have been stolen and had the passwords changed by someone (AOL wont do anything about it without a court order), My Myspace and Facebook pages had the same thing happen. Luckily I reset the passwords and got them back.

Today, my parents back home got a certified letter in the mail that turns out to be a court summons. It turns out the ex reported me for violating the restraining order, when I have done no such thing. It also states in her comments that I have been calling her using a calling card to forge caller id numbers.

I have done NO such thing.

I am honestly fucking scared, since they will probably believe her story and throw me in jail, effectively ruining my career, my life, and my relationship with my current girlfriend. I have no fucking clue what to do... I have been actively trying to get away from her, and want nothing to do with her whatsoever.

I just dont know what to do. How can someone get away with abusing the restraining order? A while back (3 months ago) I was keeping an eye on her AIM away messages since she was making threats to me through them (I NEVER CONTACTED HER IN ANY WAY, just taking screenshots of her threatening away messages), and she made several open threats against me, talked about changing my passwords, and said she wished I would die of testicular cancer.

I dont know what the fuck to do, I am downright scared of going to jail for something I never did.
 

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Take all your proof to court with you and have your parents and grandmother there to tell the court what she has been doing to you... Maybe bring phone records that show you have not contacted her. I would probably consult a lawyer just to be safe... Good luck..
 

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Dude,
1. you won't go to jail.

2. if you were not around her, she's going to have a pretty tough time of proving it.

Request that both of you take a polygraph.
 

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When you go to court, be honest :thumb:
I am definitely going to, but we have been through shit a few times before, and she ALWAYS ends up winning everyone over, since she has the look (and can fake the personality) that she is a sweet little hardcore christian girl that would never try to fuck someone over.
 

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Calling the court and asking about it, they said that it usually will result in jail time if found guilty. I have a bunch of evidence against her, but then she manages to get people on her side with hand-written e-mails (tell me how that works)

I am totally freaking out. Im trying to get away from her, finally have my life on track, have started fresh, and she is still trying to fuck me over.
 

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Calling the court and asking about it, they said that it usually will result in jail time if found guilty. I have a bunch of evidence against her, but then she manages to get people on her side with hand-written e-mails (tell me how that works)

Do you have a lawyer? A good one should be able to contest that "evidence"...

You can also bring in people from your ISP/email provider, and force them to give whatever they evidence they have, which will probably amount to nothing...
 

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Somehow I think that would make matters worse.

THis girl is psycho.
I'm not sure who he is, or what he does, but he seems to sovle lots of "problems".

Regardless - things you need to do immediately (IMHO)

talk to a lawyer.
gather up phone records.
talk to a lawyer.
get written statements from your family.
talk to a lawyer.
understand what it is she is claiming you did to violate her restraining order.
talk to a lawyer.
have your family members get restraining orders on her.
talk to a lawyer.
verify your location at the time/times you are claimed to have contacted her.
talk to a lawyer.
 

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Tell the court what you have just told us.

you should be fine, i mean you MOVED to get away from her, the judge should see that and be like "holy shit"
 

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My grandparents are going to go to court with me since they have recieved threatening calls from her personally. The phone company wont hand over shit without a court order, and I do not have my first bill yet for my iPhone (which is the number most of the activity has been on.)

The iPhone also says next to the missed calls on them 'Brighton, MI' 'Pontiac, MI' and 'Hartland, MI' next to the time they called, and just happens to be the towns where they are from.
 

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Tell the court what you have just told us.

you should be fine, i mean you MOVED to get away from her, the judge should see that and be like "holy shit"
Yeah, but so far, they have always believed her 100% even though it is obvious she is lying. I even tried getting an order against her to protect my ass, and they basically just laughed.
 

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also request to have a hand writing expert present, in her so called fake emails hand writin they can compare both of your hand writing
No, I supposedly sent her e-mails online. Instead of printing them off on her fancy printer, she copied it all down by hand, and cannot produce the original printed e-mails. Yet the judge still believed her 100%
 

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tell them what you said in your first post... that you are very threatened by her and how these lies have played out to hurt you. and that your downright scared to go to jail, especially for something you have never done, and how hard you have tried to get away and get your life back on track
 

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It is just so frustrating, because everything so far has ended up being that she is right, and I am the bad bad man that is harassing her constantly.

I feel absolutely hopeless, and now she is going for all or nothing.
 
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