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Old July 17th, 2008, 07:51 AM   #1
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So this saturday is it! I am getting married on saturday. Any advice from you long timers that will help me out?
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Old July 17th, 2008, 07:56 AM   #2
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Be patient.....Be forgiving....be prepared to bite your lip, alot... ( this has worked for me for the last 28 years)
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Old July 17th, 2008, 07:59 AM   #3
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Good call. I do that all alot now but some times I find myself blowing up. Then Im up shit creek for a couple days. Also I found that I can be WRONG a lot even if I am not!
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Personally, don't get too focused on any one thing. Keep your priorities in line but do not be too hard headed to shuffle them from time to time to keep you both happy.

Not a long timer, but I see the mistakes I made.
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Old July 17th, 2008, 08:01 AM   #5
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This would also be my advice as a newbie to the marriage game (48 days).

Also, THINK BEFORE YOU SPEAK!!!!
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Old July 17th, 2008, 08:02 AM   #6
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Been 13 years for me if you want ass remember its always your fault

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Yes. Let your bride to be have a last fling and you do so too. What's her number?

Seriously though, marriage takes work and both people must be committed to making the marriage work. Forever, is a long, long time. Men tend to have terrible listening skills and women want to be listened to. They don't want you to solve their problems (unless they ask) they just want you to listen and be understanding. True listening is a learned trait.

Start thinking in terms of 'we' and not 'I'. Set life goals together and make plans together to achieve those goals. That doesn't mean you lose individuality. You must give each other room for lots of that.

Get good at forgiveness. That too has to be something you learn (not God given to many people). You may have to be willing to forgive a LOT.

Good luck and let me know if I should call her.
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Old July 17th, 2008, 08:09 AM   #9
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just remember one statement to make

You're Right, I'm wrong, I'm Sorry.

and don't say it while smiling or giggling.


Because whether you are right or not, marrage is about working it out, and you as a guy will never be right.

17 years for me and my lovely bride

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Pick your battles wisely. Iin the long run, the silly stuff you argue about really doesn't matter at all.
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Seriously though, marriage takes work and both people must be committed to making the marriage work. Forever, is a long, long time. Men tend to have terrible listening skills and women want to be listened to. They don't want you to solve their problems (unless they ask) they just want you to listen and be understanding. True listening is a learned trait.

Start thinking in terms of 'we' and not 'I'. Set life goals together and make plans together to achieve those goals. That doesn't mean you lose individuality. You must give each other room for lots of that.

Get good at forgiveness. That too has to be something you learn (not God given to many people). You may have to be willing to forgive a LOT.

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And never go to bed mad.

It has only been 6 years for me, but we are as happy today as day 1. I'm just a little fatter.
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Cant forget great sex. It helps to keep you both happy even if everything else has gone to shit around you.
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Cant forget great sex. It helps to keep you both happy even if everything else has gone to shit around you.
Lies

You know sex ends with marriage
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Congratulations. You will never be happier. You will get whatever you want. You will now have a wife that will do all the women chores. Your home will never be cleaner. You will get even more sex and bj's. You will make even more friends than you already have. It will be better than living single.
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A big help in getting me to think correctly has been the book "Love and Respect".
You can find it @ Barnes and Noble.
Congradulations!!!!
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Congratulations. You will never be happier. You will get whatever you want. You will now have a wife that will do all the women chores. Your home will never be cleaner. You will get even more sex and bj's. You will make even more friends than you already have. It will be better than living single.
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so that means your wife has someone other than you
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We just passed the 30 year mark this year. Once very simple rule to follow.

Happy wife = Happy life.

Doesn't mean you have to be p-whipped or cave in on everything. It really means you need to live by the golden rule. For those that don't remember it;

Do unto others and you would have done to you.

Kinda boils down to common sense and all the other advice given above. Respect, sharing, trusting....... basically, don't be a dick.
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Congratulations. You will never be happier. You will get whatever you want. You will now have a wife that will do all the women chores. Your home will never be cleaner. You will get even more sex and bj's. You will make even more friends than you already have. It will be better than living single.
have you suffered an accidental blow to the head causing a mild delirium?


marriage is great. you can Fap Fap Fap right next to the mrs. while she is complaining at you.

sex is good at first, then the excuses start, then they will hold it over your head and try to use it as a means to get you to do stupid shit. once they know they have you cornered they take away the food.


other than that marriage is great.
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