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Old September 6th, 2013, 09:11 AM   #1
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Default Monetary Adoption Gift

My wife and I have very good friends that live down in Georgia that are adopting. She cannot have kids naturally, so they have decided to go this route.

They started a website selling t-shirts to friends and family to raise money for their adoption. Apparently it's really expensive to adopt.

My wife and I really want to help out, but think just buying a few t-shirts is cheesy and would prefer to just send them a check to help them out.

We were thinking of sending $500.

Too much? Too little? I have no clue what a reasonable gift amount is for this sort of thing.
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Old September 6th, 2013, 09:17 AM   #2
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There is no reasonable amount, you give them what you feel like you would like to give them.

i think $500 is very generous, i think it will be greatly appreciated.
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Old September 6th, 2013, 09:19 AM   #3
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500 is more then enough to send, more then i would send to tell you the truth.
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Old September 6th, 2013, 09:39 AM   #4
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I think $500 would be plenty. Make sure they send you some shirts for that price.
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Old September 6th, 2013, 09:50 AM   #5
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I think it's great that your sending that amount & can aford it. Send what you can.
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Old September 6th, 2013, 10:23 AM   #6
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Very generous and I am sure you will bring them tears of joy with it.
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Old September 6th, 2013, 10:43 AM   #7
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Adoption can be very expensive. My ex-neighbors adapted two of their kids at the cost of around $20k each. Your friends' cost may be a quarter of that or it could even be double that.

The amount is very generous.

I'm sure they must be familiar with this website, if not it looks like a good resource:
https://www.childwelfare.gov/adoptio...ance/state.cfm
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Old September 6th, 2013, 10:57 AM   #8
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Very generous and I am sure you will bring them tears of joy with it.
Yes. Adoption is crazy expensive. When the wife and I tried, there was no way we could afford it. It was hard times and lots of wet eyes as we realized we probably would never have a child.

We ended up with Nicholas naturally (although almost 4 months early) but only because of a lucky ultrasound and a top shelf doctor that caught what was going on at the time when she got pregnant again.
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Old September 6th, 2013, 11:06 AM   #9
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I adopted two children through the state of michgan. It cost me $460. It was reimbursed through my state taxes the following year.
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Old September 6th, 2013, 11:09 AM   #10
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$500 is a very generous amount. Your friends will be very grateful and more than appreciative. Good job Jeff

Why is it so expensive to adopt? Who gets the money after said adoption is complete?

Is it anything like this?

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Old September 6th, 2013, 11:15 AM   #11
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If they are looking for t-shirt money, and you send $500- you will have achieved Angel Status in their lives.

Hats off to you sir, that is a very nice thing you are doing.
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Old September 6th, 2013, 04:22 PM   #12
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I can get them some kids for like fourfiddy. Color preference?
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Old September 6th, 2013, 04:23 PM   #13
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Now that I'm on somebody's watch list.....

I think your donation would be well received.

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Old September 6th, 2013, 04:50 PM   #14
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Please also check to see if they found book called how to adopt without debt. It can cost upward of 30k domestically, and more internationally.

What a wonderful thing to bring a child into your family that belongs to none.

500 is perfect!! If you find extra, send a grand. I remember when I was down and out, a relative mailed me a grand and it absolutely blew my socks off. The person who gives is as blessed as the person who receives.
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Old September 6th, 2013, 05:04 PM   #15
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I can get them some kids for like fourfiddy. Color preference?
I hear they got two for one on crack babies.
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Old September 6th, 2013, 08:40 PM   #16
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I will sell you one of my kids for $1000.
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Old September 6th, 2013, 08:51 PM   #17
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Why is it so expensive to adopt? Who gets the money after said adoption is complete?
I have always wondered this myself. If anything, I see it as discouraging people to adopt a child that needs a good home.
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Old September 6th, 2013, 09:01 PM   #18
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When I worked for Ross Perot, he paid for team member's adoptions, which were damned expensive as I recall.

I'm certain a nice direct donation would be greatly appreciated.

Be classy about it - if they're peddling t-shirts, they're already pretty accepting, but pride can be a tricky thing.
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Old September 6th, 2013, 09:04 PM   #19
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It was close to 30K when we adopted our son a few years ago. Not to sound like a puss, but my wife was an emotional train wreck for the whole process. Sometimes friendship goes further than money. Your a good man!
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Old September 6th, 2013, 09:14 PM   #20
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That's awesome of you!

I don't understand why adoption would cost so much though.
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