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Old July 6th, 2012, 07:03 AM   #1
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Let me start with, if any of you are ever feeling like there is too much in your plate, and you just can't handle it please reach out. To family, friends, a bartender, even me, even if you don't know me and just talk it out with someone.


A friend and colleague of mine had been missing since Sunday and last night his body washed up in the Hudson river. He had left a note.


I was just talking with him last week and there was no indication of anything.

He tragically left behind a wife and 9 month old daughter, and a large collection of friends.

RIP Jason, you will be greatly missed
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Old July 6th, 2012, 07:08 AM   #2
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Old July 6th, 2012, 07:09 AM   #3
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Sorry for your loss. Suicide is very hard to deal with and understand. My prayers and condolences.
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Old July 6th, 2012, 07:12 AM   #5
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Sorry you lost your friend.......
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Old July 6th, 2012, 07:12 AM   #6
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Old July 6th, 2012, 07:13 AM   #7
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I was just talking with him last week and there was no indication of anything.
I think that's the biggest problem. Its crazy how most times you hear about someone killing themselves that this is how it goes down. It doesn't seem like you ever hear anyone say, "Oh yeah, he was talking about doing it for quite awhile, never thought he was serious though." I'd really like to understand the thought process behind that.

It's a very sad thing. Nothing in this world is every bad or serious enough to call it quits. It makes even less sense when you are leaving behind a family... How can you ever even think that they would be better off without you?

Sorry to hear it Sandals

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Old July 6th, 2012, 07:21 AM   #9
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I'm sorry to hear. I have had 2 people close to me kill themselves, it is selfish as Hell. I was the last one to talk to my old boss before he did it. 7:30 at night he was making plans for the future and told me all kinds of stuff he was going to teach me. 6:00 am he was done. That was 2 weeks after a friend of mine did it. They take the easy way out and leave all their friends and family to suffer.
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Old July 6th, 2012, 07:36 AM   #10
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Having a mental illness sucks. There are treatments out there and facilities to help a person out. Part of the problem with depression/suicidal thoughts is the stigma associated with this type of problem. If a person can get past that, help is out there.
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Old July 6th, 2012, 07:41 AM   #11
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My sincerest condolances to you and his family and other friends. Been there done that.
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Very sorry to hear this. Don't let it get to you.
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Old July 6th, 2012, 08:04 AM   #13
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Biggest problem is when you are in that state of mind you honestly believe that no one understands or can help. You think you are doing everyone a favor by relieveing them of the burden of 'you'.

I am fortunate to have friends and family that were there when my life was in the crapper
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Having a mental illness sucks. There are treatments out there and facilities to help a person out. Part of the problem with depression/suicidal thoughts is the stigma associated with this type of problem. If a person can get past that, help is out there.
Stigma? Not familiar with any. There are 2 types of suicidal people. Ones that succeeded and ones that did not.

I personally like this current life and have no intentions of leaving early.
I think about all those less fortunate people.
I think about all that are fighting to stay alive.
I think about pussy and naked sexy women.
I think about snow.
I think about stuff like that to help keep me alive.
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Old July 6th, 2012, 08:14 AM   #15
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Old July 6th, 2012, 08:26 AM   #16
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Sorry to hear, Sandals

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Stigma? Not familiar with any. There are 2 types of suicidal people. Ones that succeeded and ones that did not.

I personally like this current life and have no intentions of leaving early.
I think about all those less fortunate people.
I think about all that are fighting to stay alive.
I think about pussy and naked sexy women.
I think about snow.
I think about stuff like that to help keep me alive.
Stigma of having depression or 'mental illness'... Depression is very hard for people to understand, who don't have it. You can have everything, and still see the world as bleak. You can be screaming for help inside, but you can't make your mouth ask for it. I thought Chris McCosky's article after Junior Seau killed himself was one of the best I'd seen, its worth a read:

http://www.detroitnews.com/article/2...ON03/205050381
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So sorry to here man. Life is super tuff now for a lot of people. I'm very thankful for my wonderful friends (including you man).
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Old July 6th, 2012, 08:38 AM   #18
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Stigma? Not familiar with any. There are 2 types of suicidal people. Ones that succeeded and ones that did not.

I personally like this current life and have no intentions of leaving early.
I think about all those less fortunate people.
I think about all that are fighting to stay alive.
I think about pussy and naked sexy women.
I think about snow.
I think about stuff like that to help keep me alive.

Just another example that pussy IS the key to life!

I'm sorry to hear about your friend Sandals. Suicide is a hard thing to deal with. We had a family friend commit suicide when she was 18, everything in her life was seemingly just fine--no warning signs what-so-ever. It really sent my dad spinning--the idea that someone might take their life with absolutely no warning.
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Sorry to hear, Sandals



Stigma of having depression or 'mental illness'... Depression is very hard for people to understand, who don't have it. You can have everything, and still see the world as bleak. You can be screaming for help inside, but you can't make your mouth ask for it. I thought Chris McCosky's article after Junior Seau killed himself was one of the best I'd seen, its worth a read:

http://www.detroitnews.com/article/2...ON03/205050381
Excellent article! 11/11/11 I lost a dear friend I had known since age 5, she was a therapist who had made her life around helping others. We did not know she needed help herself, she was always smiling.

I worry sometimes about the bashing that goes on on forums and FB, you just never know if someone on the receiving end is suffering but yet keeps up the E fight just to "save face" This is what I saw with Krista here......

And terribly sorry for your loss Sandals!!!!!!!!!

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Excellent article! 11/11/11 I lost a dear friend I had known since age 5, she was a therapist who had made her life around helping others. We did not know she needed help herself, she was always smiling.

I worry sometimes about the bashing that goes on on forums and FB, you just never know if someone on the receiving end is suffering but yet keeps up the E fight just to "save face" This is what I saw with Krista here......

And terribly sorry for your loss Sandals!!!!!!!!!

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