Originally Posted by howell_jeep
Sounds like parents did not do any "parenting" in the generation you describe. I like to think that those are disfunctional "families" that you describe and not the norm.
You judge based on not knowing anything. Every family is dysfunctional, every single one. There is no perfect family, to include yours. There is an issue I see with you, but to refrain from calling kettle black, I will withold. One thing you could keep in mind, is as perfect a handle you have on your family, is that somewhere you are screwing up. It's no ones business to judge, but stop thinking you are above everyone. You have had this attitude before.
Wanna know something? I come from a dysfunctional family. Horribly sexually, emotionally, and physically abused mom, and due to this childhood abuse, she was absent from my life most of my childhood. My father was a very angry controlling absent father who was also a workaholic. Youngest sister is mentally handicapped. Dysfunctional? Hell yea. Am I screwed up as a man? A productive person of society? Possibly. I'm an asshole, prick, but I pray, go to church, and have a conscience on how I treat others. Honesty is a core value, and patriotic spirit too. I don't always agree with what I even do for a living, but my ethics keeps me employed and I earn my check honestly.
So for you to take this 'high road' and say you will never charge your children rent for living in your own house, be sure you don't disservice them further by reducing other valuable lessons available to you. And don't judge someone else for their methods of parenting either. I may have come from a screwed up family, but they charged me rent to live their when I got my first job. It didn't screw me up, it did hurt some paydays, but it taught me something. Sure, it didn't teach me EVERYTHING, but there is MERIT in my parents raising me the way they did.
You very well may have a different approach on teaching your kids the value of being mature, but stop your arrogance on others for how they may have done things. You aren't on any posters I've ever seen for perfect parenting.