With the way you and many others think and it is about what "You" think, is why you do not understand. It's not your thoughts it's God plan. Take the focus off of you and what you think how things should be and look at what Christ has for us.
Christ did say exactly what you are referring to,
Enter through the narrow gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction, and many enter through it. 14 But small is the gate and narrow the road that leads to life, and only a few find it.