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Charge Rent Or Not

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#1 ·
So my daughter graduated from High School this summer.

She is going to college now doing 15 credit hours driving back and forth 22 miles

She has a job working at an assisted living center making 210 per week.

She just got a second job working Tuesday and Thursday mornings four hours a morning so she should gross another 70 per week.

When I was 18 my mother started charging me rent, when I was 18 years old.

Should I let her live here for free while she is in college, or should I charge her a little for rent, 50 bucks or so.

What do you think.
 
#44 ·
I only lived with my parents for the first 2 semesters of college (moved out right after winter semester was over) and I only had a low paying job for the first semester.

I was taking 17 credits and working about 25 hrs a week, between gas to get to work/school, occasional lunch on campus during my long days and my bills I would not have been able to pay even $50 a month to my parents. I also did a lot of work around the house, so as long as she is doing her part and getting good grades I say no rent.
 
#47 ·
My parents charged us rent if we were not in school (regardless of whether or not we were working full time). I plan to do the same with my kids.

I do like the idea that some have mentioned that if you do charge them rent to put it away for them so that when they do move out you can give it back to help with their rent.
 
#50 ·
Wow, I couldn't charge rent for a good kid going to school and working 2 jobs. Its rare these days to find a kid that wants to continue education and doesn't expect to be given everything because its their right as a kid. The most I would do is charge 50 a month for utilities cable internet ect. Save all the money and give it back to them when they leave.
 
#55 ·
Seems to me like there's almost infinite possibilities/scenarios to your question. Is your kid holding decent grades, helping wash dishes, paying all her own bills (i.e. car ins, tuition, fees, books, etc) and possibly stashing some money in the bank? If yes then I'd say help her out a bit.
OTOH, if you're paying tuition, helping out with car &gas and she's out partying on the weekends blowing her money then heck yeah I'd charge.
It's all going to depend on your particular situation. I know I had to pay some and no, I didn't get any back either :(
 
#66 ·
Samantha Graduated from High School with a 3.56 GPA received a 29 on the ACT with 11 credit hours towards college when graduated from school. She was taking college credits that count for high school credits as well since the beginning of the 11th grade and we made her take summer classes last year and this summer, so she is a step ahead at 18.

I bought her a car, provide her with Insurance, food, gas, housing etc etc.

She does fantastic at school but is the typical pain in the ass teen ager at doing house hold chores etc, as my wife is a stay at home mom, she assumes that my wife is a live in maid to a small extent, not excessive.

When I was 18 I moved out and bought my second house. I worked two jobs went to college shacked up with my now wife, and rented the second bedroom of my big pimpin double wide to my buddy so I could afford to live.

I have been a self supporting tax paying citizen my entire adult life and have paid my own way.

I am a hard ass hole, I know when it comes to my kids, It is good for them, any of you pussy face fuckers that have your 30 + year olds moving back in with you, it is your fault, not theirs.

I am trying to raise a responsible adult to be ready for a world where there are no free rides if you want to succeed.

If you are a ****** and want to live in low income housing, use your Obama phone to call dial a ride to take you to get groceries on Wednesday with your EBT card Fuck You, I can not say it enough, Fuck You,

I want to instill a sense of responsibility in her, I have never had any one save up my truck, house payment and or consumers bill payments and send them back to me after ward and say good job here is a free bee. I do not believe this teaches any thing other than the entitlement that is causing the degradation of our society.
 
#67 ·
Disclaimer; charging or not charging becomes a personal choice and there are pros/cons of each. But, IMO,
Charging rent in and of itself does not teach responsibility or "real world" situations. If your daughter is busting her ass to pay for school and cramming as much education in as possible, why burden her with a cost she cannot afford? Sometimes a good life lesson is that if you work hard, rewards come in many directions, IE, free room and board. If she has to work another job or more hours to pay a rent ......... and .......... it forces her grades down because she is over burdened, what does that teach her? That life sucks and no matter how hard she works she won't get ahead? IMO, that is not a good life lesson. Just because a person reaches age 18 and graduates high school does not mean they are suddenly an adult and have to shoulder everything. Some mature faster or quite frankly "catch on" faster, no matter how much we wish they had figured it out sooner.

I still think it comes back to as long as she is moving forward at a proper pace, give her the ability to be the best she can while in school. If she becomes a slacker, give her a warning and tell her to get her shit together. If she continues to slack, change the rules. But until then, her (and your) primary goal is to get her through college with the best credentials possible to help her get a "real" job when she gets out of school. Shitty grades and a crummy degree will only prolong her getting a good job so she can move out.
 
#68 ·
sounds like a pretty good kid to me. If you feel she is taking advantage of living at home and having your wife there to help with household chores maybe instead of charging rent she can be held responsible for a few extra chores around the house to help your wife out.

I'm no ******, but I sure do love me some chicken.
 
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